This is a Game Changer!

I (John) love investing in men who are brutally honest about their brokenness and who are willing to face the “giants” (fears) in their lives IN community to pursue Christ. Mark* is one such guy. Part of my role is coaching recovery group leaders like Mark on a regular basis. The past couple years he has been leading a few men in Albany through the same men’s recovery process that I lead others through. However, he has never had anyone mentor/coach him along the way.

Mark and I have been sharing real life struggles and victories with one another and he has been growing! This past month we were talking and even before I mentioned an idea he had thought of it!:    I was going to challenge him to launch another support group for men struggling with porn and sex addiction at his church in Albany. He felt the same desire! The Lord had already led him to start one so he could bring more men through the same process.

After one of our recent coaching calls together talking about how to best lead men in the process, he said “Wow this is a GAME CHANGER!” It was a very encouraging time together. He had a great launch last month with a full group of six men, including a local church leader! It seems to be one of only a handful of such groups in the greater Capital Region based on my connections there.

Thank you for your prayers and financial support which allow Ellen and I to invest in people like Mark for the Kingdom.

Through us you are helping people like Mark to offer to others healing, hope, and opportunities to thrive through Christ.  This is a GAME CHANGER for men their wives, and future generations they will impact!

Gratefully,

John (for Ellen, Maddie Mae, Evie, and Noah)

Please Pray for Ellen’s outpatient surgery tomorrow, and more…

Please Pray:

❧   For a couple local churches near us where John has been talking with men’s ministry leaders about launching men’s support groups
❧   For us to find a new home church.
❧   For our neighbors as we intentionally host families for meals at holidays and other opportunities to be Jesus to them.

Thank you so much to so many of you who gave to help us with a replacement commuter car and Ellen’s outpatient surgery. God provided a great vehicle and her surgery is scheduled for Monday, December 3rd. Please Pray!

❧  For us to stay connected to the Lover of our Souls as we live and love and serve people and to be Jesus to our kids and one another.

❧   For increased financial and prayer support.

❧   For more support groups to start in Albany and Orlando and online where men can heal.

fall weather in upstate new york during a brief trip in October!

Fall weather in upstate new york during a brief trip in October!

Our five year old (at left) turned 5 and got her ears pierced after a long wait!

we don’t get donuts often but this is what happens when we do! 🙂

Daddy Daughter Dance at our 7 year old’s elementary school. It was a blast and we went with another dad and his daughter who is a friend of hers.

At a wedding of a friend who has watched our girls often over the years

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*names are changed for confidentiality

 

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Happy Thanksgiving!

From our family to you and yours, we hope you have an amazing day surrounded by loved ones. We are so grateful for you all and your prayers and financial support…. and because of you we have the opportunity to bring healing and hope and thriving to men and their families through Christ.

For some of you, there may be an empty seat at the dinner table or other grief in your life. Our hearts are heavy with you as well. Without fully embracing grief as Jesus did (John 11:35 and more) how can we fully feel gratitude (or other positive emotions)? Jesus modeled, this didn’t he?!

So wherever you are at this Thanksgiving, may you feel deeply and love well this day! Happy Thanksgiving !!

Gratefully,
John and Ellen and Maddie Mae, Evie and Noah

Please Pray for Men’s Groups to launch out of a local church retreat that starts tonight!

Pray for a new church partnership within our Local community tonight and tomorrow morning!

Hey Friends,
Please pray for me tonight as I go to a men’s retreat/conference at a local church in our community and form new friendships and partner with the men’s ministry to launch men’s recovery groups in the coming weeks. As you know, We are Bringing hope and healing through Christ to Men and their families to find FREEDOM from addiction and to
THRIVE in LIFE.

Just a month ago I received a phone call from a friend who I know at the church retreat asking if I could help him launch some groups for men to begin to experience hope and healing in a safe place with other men who share the same struggles.
Of course I was excited about this!!!

Please pray that men respond positively tomorrow using some individual response cards and that we are able to launch several “Conquer Groups” (the first stage of the same recovery process I went through) using “The Conquer Series” DVDs.
Thank you for praying for us in this War for the hearts of Men and their families,

Come see us at the park! 🔅 and Does anyone have a car freed up? 🚗

Dear Friends,
We are EXCITED to say we are all

Going North again for a Visit!

We wish we could visit all of you!! you know, have a meal, hangout, and just enjoy catching up. But time is limited, and we are bringing all the kids so we will have all of their “crazy” too!

So maybe missed our little get together last time we were in town over the summer, but we are gonna do it again!!
We will be intentionally playing at playground sometime during the week of 10/16 to 10/23 and will keep you posted as to the details, to be announced!

In the meantime we are reaching out as well to see
Does anyone have a reliable vehicle we could borrow during our visit?
Yes, I wrote that part big so as to make sure you saw it! 🙂
But seriously, let us know if you have access to a vehicle that you wouldn’t mind us driving while we visit. We will be traveling only inside the Capital Region this visit.

In His Grace and in His Hands always,
John, (For Ellen, Maddie Mae, Evie and Noah)

New Chapter, New Life Rhythms

Ministry Update – June/July 2018

Dear friends: As many of you know from our recent letters announcing our big transition in ministry, we have had alot of changes in our lives lately! We both were working with Cru and have transitioned to a new mission called Global Service Associates. We are Bringing hope and healing through Christ to Men and their families to find FREEDOM from addiction and to THRIVE in LIFE. Specifically, Ellen is continuing as part-time Affiliate Staff with Cru and she is coaching Cru missionaries as they bring the Gospel to the nations. She is coaching others outside of Cru as well. I (John) am leading support groups for men struggling with compulsive porn use and other addictions. I am also coaching support group leaders and connecting men to groups where they can begin to find healing with other men. Below is feedback from just a few of the men in a recent support group I led through “The Conquer Series” DVDs regarding their experience:

“Through this group I have learned to be more open, honest, and vulnerable first with the Lord and then with my brothers in the group.” – Joe

“Through this group I have learned that the issues I have go well beyond pornography. I have learned that I don’t trust God with my whole heart and I try to find peace and comfort in several different things other than God…” – PJ

“This program is real and there is nothing like it. The last 8-10 weeks have been very challenging for me but one thing is certain. I see the light of Christ shining upon everyone including me…Past behaviors are gradually falling apart in my life as long as I don’t pick them back up….What is so beautiful is seeing my family begin to love me for all the pain I inflicted in their lives due to this porn addiction. – Ed

John at Pure Desire Ministry Training

“It’s so different to really just listen and be with people.”

Ellen with a few of the missionaries she has been coaching at Cru

Discipleship is a noun that can be defined as “a follower or student of a teacher, leader, or philosopher.”
We really do desire to see others not only see and meet with Jesus as a result of our intersections; but really that they would BE Jesus to others too!

What you may not know is that Ellen is in a process to become certified (by the International Coaching Federation (ICF)) as a Life Coach. Part of that means she needs class hours, 100 coaching hours, and 3 months of a mentor coaching her! Well she’s been working on those. At least half of those hours of coaching thus far have been leaders! Just yesterday.. a woman Ellen is coaching named Anita commented

“I didn’t realize how often I was asking leading questions and directing the conversations with people, guiding them where I thought they should go. It’s so different to really just listen and be with people. The conversation really moves into a different place and it’s a beautiful thing!”

She went on to say this was a direct result of her being coached by me over the last 5 months and it was awesome to hear! This leader is loving on people the way Jesus modeled: Asking questions that get at the heart and allowing people to just be where they are.. and yet spurring them on to not stay put! After coaching a few leaders for a few months, we are seeing the discipleship happening and we are hopeful and encouraged that you will hear many more stories of others modeling this “coach approach” of valuing others and listening more deeply. (just like Jesus did!) We are privileged to walk alongside others and point people to Jesus!

As an update.. Ellen has completed over half of the hours needed for certification and completed all classroom hours! In the midst of sick kids and broken kid bones this feels like a miracle!
Thank you for your prayers and support so we can help bring hope and healing through the gospel to families struggling with addiction and help them thrive in all of life in Christ!


A 90 second video about our new mission JohnAndEllenFleming.com/newmission

Family Picture Update

We celebrated Easter together in Orlando with our annual egg hunt outreach at Cru and other shots
Lots of outdoor Fun
John’s birthday in April
Maddie Mae moved up from Daisy Scouts to join Brownie Scouts!
Evie starred in a school production
At the beach with sand on faces
Noah got a new light-up toothbrush!
All ready to swim
Daddy daughters date at Krispy Kreme
Ellen and John took a 24 hour retreat to the beach without kids to do planning and visioning for the future
All dressed up Attending a NY friend’s wedding in ORLANDO!
Ellen taught Noah to swim independently (with back floatie!)
Evie learned to ride a bike without training wheels!
we celebrated Noah’s 2nd bday in NY
Celebrating John on Father’s Day in NY
Bike ride

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In his Grace forever,

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