New Chapter, New Life Rhythms

Ministry Update – June/July 2018

Dear friends: As many of you know from our recent letters announcing our big transition in ministry, we have had alot of changes in our lives lately! We both were working with Cru and have transitioned to a new mission called Global Service Associates. We are Bringing hope and healing through Christ to Men and their families to find FREEDOM from addiction and to THRIVE in LIFE. Specifically, Ellen is continuing as part-time Affiliate Staff with Cru and she is coaching Cru missionaries as they bring the Gospel to the nations. She is coaching others outside of Cru as well. I (John) am leading support groups for men struggling with compulsive porn use and other addictions. I am also coaching support group leaders and connecting men to groups where they can begin to find healing with other men. Below is feedback from just a few of the men in a recent support group I led through “The Conquer Series” DVDs regarding their experience:

“Through this group I have learned to be more open, honest, and vulnerable first with the Lord and then with my brothers in the group.” – Joe

“Through this group I have learned that the issues I have go well beyond pornography. I have learned that I don’t trust God with my whole heart and I try to find peace and comfort in several different things other than God…” – PJ

“This program is real and there is nothing like it. The last 8-10 weeks have been very challenging for me but one thing is certain. I see the light of Christ shining upon everyone including me…Past behaviors are gradually falling apart in my life as long as I don’t pick them back up….What is so beautiful is seeing my family begin to love me for all the pain I inflicted in their lives due to this porn addiction. – Ed

John at Pure Desire Ministry Training

“It’s so different to really just listen and be with people.”

Ellen with a few of the missionaries she has been coaching at Cru

Discipleship is a noun that can be defined as “a follower or student of a teacher, leader, or philosopher.”
We really do desire to see others not only see and meet with Jesus as a result of our intersections; but really that they would BE Jesus to others too!

What you may not know is that Ellen is in a process to become certified (by the International Coaching Federation (ICF)) as a Life Coach. Part of that means she needs class hours, 100 coaching hours, and 3 months of a mentor coaching her! Well she’s been working on those. At least half of those hours of coaching thus far have been leaders! Just yesterday.. a woman Ellen is coaching named Anita commented

“I didn’t realize how often I was asking leading questions and directing the conversations with people, guiding them where I thought they should go. It’s so different to really just listen and be with people. The conversation really moves into a different place and it’s a beautiful thing!”

She went on to say this was a direct result of her being coached by me over the last 5 months and it was awesome to hear! This leader is loving on people the way Jesus modeled: Asking questions that get at the heart and allowing people to just be where they are.. and yet spurring them on to not stay put! After coaching a few leaders for a few months, we are seeing the discipleship happening and we are hopeful and encouraged that you will hear many more stories of others modeling this “coach approach” of valuing others and listening more deeply. (just like Jesus did!) We are privileged to walk alongside others and point people to Jesus!

As an update.. Ellen has completed over half of the hours needed for certification and completed all classroom hours! In the midst of sick kids and broken kid bones this feels like a miracle!
Thank you for your prayers and support so we can help bring hope and healing through the gospel to families struggling with addiction and help them thrive in all of life in Christ!


A 90 second video about our new mission JohnAndEllenFleming.com/newmission

Family Picture Update

We celebrated Easter together in Orlando with our annual egg hunt outreach at Cru and other shots
Lots of outdoor Fun
John’s birthday in April
Maddie Mae moved up from Daisy Scouts to join Brownie Scouts!
Evie starred in a school production
At the beach with sand on faces
Noah got a new light-up toothbrush!
All ready to swim
Daddy daughters date at Krispy Kreme
Ellen and John took a 24 hour retreat to the beach without kids to do planning and visioning for the future
All dressed up Attending a NY friend’s wedding in ORLANDO!
Ellen taught Noah to swim independently (with back floatie!)
Evie learned to ride a bike without training wheels!
we celebrated Noah’s 2nd bday in NY
Celebrating John on Father’s Day in NY
Bike ride

For a downloadable pdf version of this newsletter, click the image below:

In his Grace forever,

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We’re…. Back! (in Albany)

Hey Friends,
We are excited and overwhelmed by all the Albany NY love. We would absolutely love to sit in your living room or at the local coffee shop, have a meal and just enjoy catching up. Reality sets in, we are a family of 5 and we have an almost 2 year old! Ever hear of that post that shows a picture of what you hoped for and what actually happens? Yup.. so we will be intentionally playing at playground located at the crossings in Colonie on Saturday June 23rd from 9am til noon. Feel free to drop by or shoot us a text saying you’ll join us! Kids aren’t necessary you can borrow one of ours for an hour and call them your own; everyone’s welcome at the playground!
Love,
Ellen, for John, Maddie Mae, Evie and Noah

A Letter from our Mission’s Director about our new Mission 📝📬

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Dear Friends,
We hope you had an amazing Easter, celebrating the new life we have because of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ! It was the first time I can remember being home with a sick family on Easter Sunday! It was a sad day to miss out on celebrating and worshiping with friends at church but our Easter Sunday was also new and refreshing in its own way. Like so many things in life, there were mixed emotions.   We know the way the Lord has for us to walk in this life is fraught with difficulties but along the way there is Joy to be found with Christ and his Body as we walk together.

We are excited that Ellen has finished two thirds of her classroom training and started on her
coaching hours to apply for certification. Once this training is completed, she will be better equipped to help people thrive in Christ in our ministry.

Please pray:
  • for John as he “digests” the training from Pure Desire Ministries he attended last weekend in the Washington DC area. (This training conference focuses on equipping leaders to bring hope and healing to men, women, and their families in the areas of compulsive porn use and other related addictions)
  • for our family to thrive in this very full season of life transitions and change
  • for Ellen as she begins her transition as a coach serving missionaries at Cru Headquarters on her new team, while still attending classes
  • for financial (and logisitical) provision for these trainings
  • for health for our family, we have noticed that sicknesses tend to come at not-so-ideal times! 😦
If you would like to give a special gift towards the cost of our respective trainings , please contact us or visit http://JohnAndEllenFleming.com/give to send a tax-deductible gift online.
Partners in His Harvest,

Attached is a letter in PDF format from our General Manager at Global Service Associates sharing more about GSA and his own message to you about us. We hope it is encouraging and informative. Click the thumbnail image below to read it.

Our Biggest Exciting Ministry Update Ever! (Part 2)

Can you believe Valentine’s Day was only one month ago?  Many of us celebrated with our loved ones and spouses. It is a significant day for many.

Yet the grim reality in America is that 59%1 of married church- attending men romanced their wife on Valentine’s Day, and then continued to view and struggle with pornography.  What’s worse is that recent research2 shows divorce rates double when people begin watching porn. Valentine’s day romancing is nice, but not enough when it comes to defending a marriage from a powerful hidden sexual struggle.

As we mentioned in our last post a few days ago, we are pursuing a new direction in ministry.  We feel called to provide hope, healing, and a place of recovery for men who struggle with the compulsive use of pornography and addiction, and help them, their spouses, and families to thrive wherever the Lord has destined them to have the greatest impact on the world for Christ.  

In a future post we will include a letter of recommendation from Rich Lotterhos, the General Manager of Global Service Associates (GSA). We hope it will encourage you and give you more insight into the purpose and mission of GSA.

We invite you to partner with us prayerfully and financially as we move into this next chapter of life and ministry to bring a deep-heart discipleship process to many men and their families, whether they know Jesus personally or not… be they churched, “unchurched”, or “de-churched.”  There are many ways you can join with us financially. You can give a tax-deductible gift in the following ways:

  1. Mailing checks made out to “Global Service Associates” with our names in the memo to:
    P.O. Box 20425, Boulder, CO 80308
  2. Give online at http://johnandellenfleming.com/give which redirects to our mission’s website. Or just click the Give button below.
  3. Please Pray for us and those we minister to, and let us know you are praying, if you have a chance. 🙂

If you received a link to this post via an email from us, we plan to contact you soon to answer any questions you have and see if you would partner with us financially in this new exciting chapter.  

Looking forward to seeing the fruit of our partnership in Eternity, 

 

 

1Barna Group, (2016). The Porn Phenomenon
2David Shultz, 2016. Divorce Rates Double When People Start Watching Porn, Retrieved from https://www.sciencemag.org/news/2016/08/divorce-rates-double-when-people-start-watching-porn

Our Biggest Exciting Ministry Update Ever! (Part 1)

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Dear Partners in the Gospel,

     You have been with us through seasons of fruitfulness and great impact, as well as seasons of hardship and difficulty. We are convinced that if not for the amazing grace and faithfulness our God shown to us through you, we would have dropped the baton and stopped running the race many times. We are very thankful to God for you and your partnership with us in the gospel!

    We have an exciting new direction in ministry to announce! We will be following up this post with another one soon sharing more about our new mission and how you can partner with us.

This past fall, the Lord made it clear through many people, mentors, prayer, and circumstances that we are to pursue a new direction in ministry. We have been called to provide hope, healing, and a place of recovery for men who struggle with the compulsive use of pornography and addiction, and help them, their spouses, and families to thrive wherever the Lord has destined them to have the greatest impact on the world for Christ.  

John has resigned from Cru and has joined a new mission called Global Service Associates (GSA).

John will be leading and launching support groups composed of small groups of men through local churches and missions agencies in Orlando, across America, and online. Long term, Ellen will be working with John in the same ministry, also as a member of GSA. She will be a Life Coach.  For men who have received much healing through the recovery process, she will help them find their destiny in Christ for the next chapter in their lives.  For spouses and family members, she will help them adjust to the new “normal” in their lives.

We invite you to partner with us as we move into this next chapter of life and ministry to bring a deep-heart discipleship process to many men and their families, whether saved or unsaved, churched, unchurched, or “de-churched.”  

We are called to do this until everyone has an opportunity to have spiritual and emotional healing in their deepest parts, and then thrive as they move forward.

Here are more details:

Several months ago, as I (John) was sharing with a friend about how much God has done in my life to bring healing in recent years, he suggested maybe I should consider narrowing our ministry focus to this same area.  This went straight to my heart and I knew it was God speaking through him. You see, I’ve been in a men’s support group for various addictive struggles for over 3 years, and God has used this small group of men to heal my heart in so many ways–both emotionally and spiritually. The process as been developed by a ministry called Pure Desire, and the leaders of Pure Desire have been helping men get healing for approximately 25 years. I am still a work in progress but God has used this process to heal me greatly.

As the fog of addiction has begun to clear, I have begun to ask questions like “now that I have all this freedom, what’s next, Lord?”, “who have I really been underneath this addiction?”, and “what is my design in Christ for this chapter in my life?” Ellen has been coaching me through some of these questions, along with others. She has developed a passion to come alongside someone who is stuck in her life or someone dreaming about their future asking questions like these. After talking with and praying with many people both inside and outside of Cru, We have felt this calling clearly to serve in this way together, as we always have in ministry. Ellen, as a life coach, will be working toward a license through Professional Christian Coaching Institute (PCCI) while she works part time at Cru headquarters. She will step along side John in helping men to get freedom from sex/porn/work addiction to help them thrive in discovering their design in Christ. This is a process of deep, heart discipleship that we believe all humanity should have a chance to experience in Christ. We will be reaching into other cultural and ethnic contexts besides our own to launch ministries.  Orlando is a very diverse city and provides many opportunities for this!

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After we discovered there aren’t currently full time opportunities within Cru to serve in this capacity , we found Global Service Associates (GSA), a non-profit christian mission whose express mission is to empower ministers of the Gospel to live out our God-given apostolic calling and to help fulfill the Great Commission in our specific area of focus.  We applied, interviewed, and were accepted by this religious order in December.

Until the end of the year, Ellen will primarily serve Cru staff women who are in transition when she is working part time at Cru headquarters, simultaneously fulfilling her certification requirements. Although Ellen will still have our support account with Cru, she won’t receive any benefits while part time with Cru. We will receive our primary funding through our ministry partners who will give to GSA, similarly to how we have done with Cru for years.

We praise God for your continued partnership with us in the Gospel and ask you to join with us in this next chapter of our journey through prayer and financial support.  We’ll share more details soon about Global Service Associates in our next post.  Until then please pray for us.  All the changes coming are nothing small for us, but not too big for God to handle.  

Again, thanks for your friendship and we look forward to connecting with you soon!

Partners in His Harvest, 

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